A name?

I have always thought myself clever when filling out forms and come to the question “Employment” - Domestic Engineer and “Employer” –Self. Well, when starting this new blog I figured I’d have it made to do domesticengineer (taken) domesticengineering (taken) and even domesticengineering101 (also taken). So I used a thesaurus for engineer and found ‘architect’. Since it has been at the back of my mind since 7^th grade that I would like to be an architect, I took on domesticarchitect instead.

So many times you hear the description “Full-time Mom” or “Stay-at-home Mom”. First, the “full-time mom”. Isn’t anyone who is a mom at it full-time? Whether she works, “stays home” (we’ll dissect that later), is holding her first child for the very first time or is an empty-nester with 47 great-grandchildren. When a mom is a mom there is no part-time or half-time. You may not be around them 24/7 (and who wants to be anyway-we do have to sleep or try to), but you are still their mother full-time. Second: the false advertising of “Stay-at-home Mom”. Unless you are physically incapable of leaving your home, there is no way that a mom these days stays at home. I like to think that we are home when the rest of, (or majority of), the family is home, but come on. We do not sit around eating bonbons watching TV all day long, just waiting with bated breath for another human being to walk through the door. No, you’ve heard the definition of “Mother”; taxi driver, nurse, accountant, referee, etc., etc. Yes, we might (because I fall under this category) be home a lot, stay home during the day when most of the world is working for a salary at an office or on the road. But my full-time “job” is my family – my employer is my family. Whether I have no children, 2 children or 20+, all my energies go into making my house a home and a haven for my family and whomever else would like to darken (or better yet, lighten) our door. That is why I picked up on the word domestic engineer/architect. I am a home-builder, -creator and -designer. That is not to say that those women who have children and families who work for a salary from some outside source don’t do these things, it’s just that I do that all the time (and don’t receive a salary for it, darn).

So, welcome to my world of a Domestic Architect. I don’t have a clear definition yet what I will write or how often I will write. I do have another blog that is more my family’s journal. But since my family is my ‘job’ I will probably write a lot here about things I have learned, would like to learn and am in the process of learning about being a Mom. I never mean to offend anyone, but sometimes the way I word things may come across as being judgmental. That is NOT my objective. I do not have my mother’s and oldest daughter’s gift of words. Unfortunately that skipped the generation which is myself. I just have opinions and they are centered on the way I look at life and deal with certain situations. I have a very clear understanding that one person does things one way and another does it another way. We all have to get there on our own and in our own way. But sometimes what one person says will help another understand something in a different light. That is what my objective is; not to harm, but to help. (That is if I ever get into sharing any deep thoughts or feelings).

Ok, I’m blabbering. So I guess it is time to go eat some lunch. – Oh, any thoughts on what I can title my blog? My address is domesticarchitect, but I need a better title to put on my header. That is if anyone is out there reading this. Maybe I’ll ask my more talented mother and daughter…………..

Have a GREAT day!